5 Signs Your Wife Wants A Divorce (And How To Prevent It)

Wife Wants a Divorce

If your marriage is 'on the rocks' and you're worried that your spouse is thinking about asking for a divorce, then this article is for you.  I'll explain a few signs to look for that indicate your wife is thinking about divorce, and I'll tell you how to stop it and how to begin repairing your marriage.

So, let's dive into the first sign to look for...

Sign #1 - Arguing Over Anything & Everything.

Yes, it’s no secret that an increase in the frequency and intensity of arguments with your partner are a clear indication that all is not well with your marriage.  Now, don’t panic here just because you and your spouse are fighting a few times a week… every married couple will disagree and have conflicts from time to time, and it’s actually a healthy thing to argue now and then as long as they lead to resolutions or don’t leave lingering hard feelings.

When those arguments become daily occurrences, and tend to arise over almost anything, then that’s when things get a bit more dicey.  For example, if you arriving 5 minutes late for a dinner date turns into a massive screaming match and results in both of you going to bed angry for the third time in a week, then that’s a problem.  These kinds of arguments, if they happen frequently and tend to blow small grievances or disagreements way out of proportion, can indicate that your marriage is headed in the wrong direction.

Most of the time, couples who argue too often but have otherwise healthy marriages can repair this problem relatively easily.  In simple terms, if you and your spouse fight too much or argue often over small issues, you need to learn how to prevent the useless arguments and have more important disagreements in a more civilized and constructive manner.

Click here to watch an excellent free video with tips on how to argue more effectively (and much more -- it's well worth watching). 

Now, another and potentially more serious indication of an unhealthy marriage is when one or both of you stops trying to resolve conflict at all. Which leads me to the next point….

Sign #2 - No Longer Willing To Resolve Conflict or Find Solutions.

If your partner seems to no longer care about the outcome of a fight, or if they seem to feel as though trying to find a solution to your problems is pointless or hopeless, then that can be a clear indication of deeper troubles.  When this kind of despair sets in, your partner may withdraw further and feel as though there will never be a way for the two of you to live together in peace.  That’s obviously not a good thing, and it’s something that you need to work on if this has become a problem in your marriage.

Sign #3 - Lack of Emotional Connection and Withdrawal of Affection.

If your wife has become distant and stopped showing affection towards you, that can also be a strong indication that they’re mentally checking out of the marriage.  Often associated with this is an overall lack of emotional connection and a lack of willingness to discuss or show feelings and emotions.

In my experience, this is one of the most obvious signs that a marriage is headed in the wrong direction.  Usually, though, it’s more a symptom than a root problem, and resolving the core issues of your marriage can usually help re-build the emotional connection and lead your spouse to begin showing affection again.

If you’re seeing this symptom as well as some of the others on this list, start taking action to stop the degradation of your marriage.  Watch this video right now to learn about 3 techniques that will help you repair your relationship (even if your wife isn't interested at the moment). 

Sign #4 - Rarely or never having sex.

Sex can be symptom of other problems in your marriage -- if you’re always fighting and there’s no emotional connection, the sex is going to disappear as well.

But it can also be a problem of its own and lead to a marriage crisis, whether it’s caused by fading attraction or a low sex drive.

Either way, a sexless marriage is almost always a marriage on the fast track to divorce, so if your spouse seems uninterested in sex or makes excuses, that’s a clear indication of problems.

Sign #5 - Your spouse is absent more often or seems pre-occupied.

If your partner is staying out late more often, and showing less interest in family and spending time together, that may be an indication that they are either unhappy with the situation at home.  It may also be that they’re preparing mentally for life apart, building a social life or possibly even dating.  Hopefully that’s not the case, and don’t prematurely accuse your spouse of this just because they’re home less often, but it is a possibility.

Simply put, if you’re spending less time with your wife than you have in the past or if she seems distant and pre-occupied when you are spending time together, that can be a clear sign of a spouse mentally struggling with the decision to end a marriage.

Next Steps: Where to go from here...

First, let's make one thing clear: just because your partner is exhibiting a couple of the behaviours that I just talked about doesn’t mean that they’re definitely planning to file for divorce.  It may simply be that these are indicators of trouble ahead in your marriage.  But if you’ve seen several of these indicators in your spouse recently, and you’re feeling that things aren’t on track with your marriage, I encourage you to act to turn things around now before matters get any worse.

The best place to start is by watching this free video by marriage guru Brad Browning... he explains where you've been going wrong and what you need to do to make your wife fall back in love with you.

Click here to watch the video now, before it's taken down.  

Good luck!

Making Relationships Work

There are some great models out there for making relationships work, and the most recent ideas that I have seen are from Robert Epstein,Ph.D., who has studied arranged marriages in India, which have a 5% divorce rate, when our model based on Prince Charming, Cinderella, and the intervention of the Fairy Godmother has a 50% divorce rate in first, second, and third iterations.

What do those couples do that we can do, is the question Epstein asked.

It turns out that those couples in India, who may have met once prior to their marriage ceremony, work on intimacy.

They put regular effort into behaviors which enhance their connection, like a workout if you will.

So come hell, high water, or in-laws, those couples engage in regular repetitions of behaviors like what Epstein calls 'soul gazing' which means that a couple sits close together and looks into each others eyes for two minutes.

Try it, you will enjoy that one, and another exercise is designed to synchronize heart beats, which I have done in my office using Heartmath, a heart rate variability biofeedback program.

Using heart rate variability biofeedback, both partners first learn to make their own heart rate variability coherent, then I hook them up to separate computers, and the partners hold hands and look at their own heart rate variability, and slowly a heart beat of the relationship emerges, which is a combination of their own coherences.

Couples learn how fast they move into and out of coherence based on what they are thinking about. To a person, folks are amazed that a thought can have so rapid and powerful impact on their physiology, even when they are sitting quietly.

One of the great benefits of Heart rate variability biofeedback is that it is so easy to learn and repeat,for example I can simply remember a memory of a time I and my wife were close, to cue heart rate variability coherence, when I am away from her, and perhaps stressed at work.

Practice like that makes our in person practice that much stronger.

Masters of Marriage

John Gottman,Ph.D., and his wife Julie Schwartz-Gottman have been following couples for 30 years at the Love Lab, where couples come to spend a weekend where they are observed by the Gottman team doing as they usually do.

Out of the voluminous data, the Gottman's have discovered what the masters of marriage do that keeps their union going strong, and have put those ideas together in a workshop called The Art and Science of Love, which I have used with my domestic violence counseling clients.

Those clients are often amazed that relationship skills, listening skills, intimacy skills, Heartmath, etc. can all be learned and practiced.

In fact, I have used the Gottman exercise called Discovering Your Partners Love Map with couples who were arguing a moment before, and watched them move from confrontation to fond memory.

The Gottman's also speak to what they call the Four Horsemen.

Expressions of contempt, disgust, criticism, and stonewalling are markers for divorce, so those are negative making relationships work skills.

The Chemistry of Love

What if making relationships work could begin with an effort to find someone you had chemistry with?

Sounds like a bad T.V. or internet advertisement doesn't it, but perhaps we should read the research that Helen Fisher,Ph.D. has done on 'in-love' brains.

Fisher has done a huge amount of scientific evaluation of fMRI or functional magenetic resonance images of folks who have just fallen in or out of love.

It turns out that our brains activate very powerful systems involved with lust, love, and trust, and each of those systems has a hormone or neurotransmitter associated with it, and we can engage in behaviors which enhance the presence of that hormone or neurotransmitter.

For example, the hormone associated with trust is oxytocin, which is the milk let down hormone for women, and which both partners get a burst of during orgasm, or during intimacy exercises like what Epstein and the Gottman's prescribe.

(So do eye gazing and make love, and that will help make the relationship work? Sounds like fun, right?)

Fisher's research says that we can actually enhance the opportunity for chemistry if we work to find someone with a personality profile complementary to our own.

She has evaluated ten's of thousands of profiles at Chemistry.com and come up with some personality types.

So making relationships work can be enhanced by taking Fisher's personality type test, and doing the Epstein and Gottman exercises?

And what will the Fairy Godmother have to say about all this?

Michael S. Logan is a brain fitness expert, a counselor, a student of Chi Gong, and licensed one on one HeartMath provider. I enjoy the spiritual, the mythological, and psychological, and I am a late life father to Shane, 10, and Hannah Marie, 4, whose brains are so amazing. http://www.askmikethecounselor2.com

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Making Relationships Work

The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women

New Research Reveals:
The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women (And constantly reject or overlook others)

Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women - Tanya had been told she was “amazing”, “A great catch” “cool” and “total girlfriend material” by the men she’d dated…

But all their seemingly kind words just made her feel worse.

Because the cold, hard truth was:
No matter how great they SAID she was, they still weren’t CHOOSING her.


>>>Click Here: Check out the In-depth Video to found out

Which meant these men were either lying, or there was something else wrong with her: something so repulsive they couldn’t bring themselves to stay with her.

“It made me feel broken” she told us. “Why am I never enough for the men I really want?”

“I just want someone to choose me”

This question of what makes a man choose a certain woman while overlooking others has plagued women for as long as men and women have been getting together.

And science may finally have an answer.

According to new research published in the scientific journal, “Archives of Sexual Behavior”*, men don’t choose women for “logical reasons”.

As dating and relationship coach Clayton Max told us, “It’s not about checking all the boxes on a man’s list of what makes his ‘perfect girl’. And a woman can’t convince a man to want to be with her”

In fact, Max says, when a woman tries to convince a man, pressure him, or show him how amazing she is, it’s likely to backfire, since these behaviors signal the exact opposite of what makes a man absolutely sure a certain woman is it for him.

“The reality is” according to Max, “men choose women who do one thing and one thing only:

They choose women who make them feel the powerful emotion of INFATUATION”

Psychologists have discovered that infatuation comes from a primal drive deep within the brain…

And in men, it’s either on or it’s off.

When a man’s infatuation instinct is ON, it doesn’t matter if a woman has any of the qualities he’s been looking for.

She could be completely wrong for him, but he’ll make time for her. He’ll move cities for her. He’ll change careers for her.

Because the Infatuation Instinct literally TURNS OFF the part of a man’s brain concerned with anything other than making her his.

So how does a woman activate a man’s Infatuation Instinct… to make him so overwhelmed with desire for her he’s willing to do anything to show her how much he wants her?

>>>Click Here: Check out the In-depth Video to found out

 The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women

Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl

Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl

Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl - When Holly met Colin 3 years ago, she thought they were perfect for each other. They had the same sense of humor and enjoyed the same movies and TV shows. They both wanted to start a family in the next few years.

They even had the same favorite childhood book — The Velveteen Rabbit — a sweet coincidence he often mentioned when people asked about their relationship.

So when he suddenly ended things one rainy October day, she was completely blindsided.

“I don’t understand what happened” she told us “He once told me that he’d made a list when he was younger of all the things he wanted in a partner, and that I’d checked off every last one. And just last month he was talking about taking singing lessons so he could serenade me at our wedding.”

Unfortunately, Holly’s story is all too common. According to dating and relationship expert Clayton Max, it’s not unusual for a man to pull away from a woman who seems perfect for him.

“What most women don’t realize,” Max said “is it doesn’t matter how good a woman is for a man ‘on paper’. She could check every box on his list, and he’ll still panic when it comes to taking the relationship deeper”

That’s because despite priding themselves on how logical and rational they are, Max says, “Men don’t choose a woman based on who’s the best logical choice for them. Instead, they choose the woman who makes them FEEL certain things.”

What things?

According to Max, men are naturally more scared of commitment than women are, but their brains also come pre-wired with a mechanism that overrides this fear with the right woman.

This mechanism is called The Infatuation Instinct, and when it’s activated, it literally shuts down the part of his brain that feels panicked. Suddenly his feelings of doubt disappear, he feels absolutely sure about the woman, and he’s willing to move mountains to be with her.

When choosing between a woman who makes sense for him and one who’s triggered his primal infatuation instinct, men will choose the one who’s triggered his infatuation instinct every single time.

So what are Max’s suggestions for a woman who wants a man to commit more deeply to her?

1. Accept the Reality

A big mistake women make, is wishing men were different than they are. But a man can no more control the feelings of panic he feels around commitment than a woman can control her feelings of wanting to commit.

In fact, when he feels judged for not being sure, it only adds to the anxiety and guilt he already feels, making him more likely to hit the ‘eject’ button sooner rather than later.

By accepting that this is just how men are wired, and not pressuring him, it gives you space to focus on what DOES make him sure — activating his infatuation instinct.

2. Don’t try to “convince” him

Most women fall into the trap of trying to be a man’s ‘dream girl’, by exhibiting all the ‘good girlfriend’ qualities, such as being a good listener, being loyal, attentive, generous, and passionate.

They’ll list out all the reasons they’re a good match, or they’ll simply try to figure out what qualities he wants in a woman, so they can display them when he’s around.

Either way, they’re trying to appeal to his ‘logical brain’, which in this case is not running the show.

Women will do this again and again, despite the fact that this approach almost never works, leaving them disappointed, and angry when he ends up choosing a woman who has almost none of the qualities he says he wants.

3. Focus on activating his infatuation instinct

The only surefire way of getting a man to commit with his whole heart, so he’s absolutely sure a woman is the one for him, is to activate his infatuation instinct.

A man’s infatuation instinct is turned on by very specific qualities in a woman. Things like curiosity, boundaries, and uncertainty, which stir a sense of excitement and a desire to chase.

While many women will try to show a man how devoted they are to him in the hope that this will make him feel safe enough to open his hear, this more often than not just adds to the pressure he feels, since at this stage, he’s more afraid of losing his freedom than losing her.

For more information on how to activate a man’s infatuation instinct, including exact scripts that do exactly that, watch this free video presentation.

In it, you’ll learn about the ‘emotional tripwire’, which puts a man in infatuation mode, without him realizing why.

Watch it now while it’s still available - CLICK HERE

Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl

Top 3 Ways To Make Him Love You Like Crazy

Top 3 Ways To Make Him Love You Like Crazy

By Clayton Max, Author of Infatuation Scripts

Top 3 Ways To Make Him Love You Like Crazy - Do you find yourself falling hard for that special guy? Is your heart just full of love and affection for him, but don’t know how to show it?

Maybe you’re worried that he might find you too intense and back off, or you’re worried that he might fall into someone else’s arms.

Whatever the case may be, I got 5 awesome ways to make him feel an intense, burning desire for you.

#1. Work Your Way Into His Life

Most women assume that guys want to sleep with a girl as fast as they can. But in my own experience, I found that you’re more likely to pull him in by being friends with him.

I know that sounds scary because this might get you banished into the Friend Zone. But the idea here is to not hop in the sack with him right away and draw it out a bit.

Believe it or not, many guys love the sweet torture of a “slow burn”.

If you play it right, you can keep up this dance until his desire reaches a point where he can’t stand being ‘just friends’ with you.

He’ll want to take things to the next level.

>>>Click Here: Discover The ‘Psychological Triggers’ To Activate a Man’s Infatuation Instinct

#2. Win Him Over With Words

A good relationship happens when a couple has the habit of communicating in a gentle, loving way.

Of course, in the real world, this isn’t always the case, especially when they get into a disagreement.

But for the most part, a relationship thrives when there are more words of affirmation than hostility or criticism.

That’s why a guy is more likely to respond positively to a woman who recognizes his strengths and celebrates them through words of affirmation.

For example, you can compliment him on how great he looks on his new shirt, or even just the way he remembers all that Star Wars trivia.

Whatever qualities that you love about him, make sure to acknowledge that and point it out to him.

Use These Scripts To Trigger A Man’s Infatuation Instinct And See The Dramatic Difference On How He Responds To You 

#3. Use The Right Body Language

Have you ever noticed how some couples just seem to complement each other? I’m talking about the way they finish each other’s sentences or already know what the other is thinking without saying a single word.

You can see this common quality in happy couples, whether it’s your best friend and her husband or your 90-year old grandparents’. They just seem to connect on a deep, unspoken level.

In order to emulate that quality and set the stage for you and your guy, you can start with body language.

Of course, a long-term relationship requires you to develop a bond through shared experiences and the like. But matching his facial expressions, for instance, is a great way to lay down the foundations.

For example, if you’re out on a date with him and he’s having a good time, he’s likely to have a happy, satisfied expression on his gorgeous face.

What you can do is match the brightness of his smile and instantly, that will allow you to create an emotional connection with him. It’s nothing short of magical, and it will certainly feel that way.

When you start doing these things today, you can start putting your relationship on a better path. Treat these as habits you can adopt into your daily routine, like making deposits in a bank.

Pretty soon, your relationship will be rich with love and you’ll have plenty of it to go around for years to come.

But did you know that you can also say a few select phrases to a guy and make him instantly fall in love with you even HARDER? It sounds crazy, but there’s a combination of words that can literally change a man’s emotional state and generate red-hot feelings of passion for you.

The truth is that it’s based on an obscure psychological principle. Any woman can apply this through a combination of certain words that will create a powerful effect on the way he thinks about you.

It’s almost like re-wiring his brain so that he can’t imagine spending the rest of his life with anyone else but you. Honestly, it’s a level of devotion that’s almost scary.

If you’re ready for this kind of commitment, however, you can learn the secrets to this technique right here:

>>>Click Here: How To Use Infatuation Scripts To Make Him Sure That You’re The One For Him

Top 3 Ways To Make Him Love You Like Crazy

5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With

5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With

By Clayton Max, Author of Infatuation Scripts 

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.” ― Coco Chanel

Whether you’re looking for a long-term partner, or already have one, it pays to have the right habits in a relationship.

The thing about guys is that they don’t always know how to articulate what they want in their woman.

Most men weren’t exactly taught how to express their feelings while growing up. So it can be tricky sometimes for them to let their partner know about their emotional and physical needs.

And this leads to all sorts of misunderstandings and unfulfilled expectations, which can put a wedge between you two.

Luckily, I’m here to give you the inside track to how men think. Drawing from my own experience and from helping my clients, here are the Top 5 Habits That Make Men Crazy About You:

#1: Play Hard to Get

Ok, this might sound like familiar territory, but listen up.

Typically, a lot of women (and men!) try to make someone like them by putting on a detached-but-I-might-be-attracted-to-you kind of act.

Also, these women may wait for an arbitrary amount of time to reply to messages (e.g., a couple of hours, a few days, etc.) to avoid looking desperate. Worse, they’ll pretend they’re busy, hoping it’ll make a guy more interested in them.

But this approach tends to backfire.

It’s confusing - and worse, he’ll eventually see through this stilted act. This, of course, is a huge turn-off.

There’s no problem showing interest in a guy. And there’s no need in this day and age to play silly mind games.

Instead, you can play a different kind of game – one built on authenticity.

Give your guy hints that you like him, and be enthusiastic when you’re together. Experts find that a person starts falling in love with someone once they knew they wanted them.

As for the “playing hard to get” part, that means actually being busy. That’s not the empty kind of busy where you’re at home, scrolling down endlessly on your social media feed.

It’s better to be fully engaged with all the other parts of your life. You’ve got your work, social life, hobbies and other passions that make you well-rounded and happy.

If that makes you unavailable from time to time, that’s a good thing.

Richard Wiseman, author of “59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute”, did some research on this.

He found that people who were hard to get gave the impression that they’re a scarce resource. However, they ALSO had to be enthusiastic about the other person to be attractive.

That way, it put the subject in a more balanced and attractive light.

Discover The ‘Psychological Triggers’ To Activate a Man’s Infatuation Instinct 

#2: Rock His World

In a nutshell, you need to generate strong emotions within your guy while he’s with you. He’ll then associate those feelings with you, which naturally creates that spark.

In an MIT study, behavioral researchers found that people have a habit of transferring their feelings from one setting to the next.

What does this mean?

For instance, if you nearly hit another car while driving to work, you’d carry those negative vibes into the office. That previous, unrelated experience would bleed into the rest of your day.

Some call this “emotional misattribution” or “emotional leakage” - this is the human tendency to attach strong feelings to the nearest person, even if they had little to do with it.

Also, it has to do with the fact that being physically aroused can easily translate into a sexual attraction. So, if you can find a way to keep things exciting for him – like doing sports or something physically intensive – then he’ll latch those feelings onto you.

#3: Laugh at His Jokes

Admittedly, a lot of women reacted to this piece of advice with a raised eyebrow.

But hear me out – this could be a game-changer in your relationship.

First of all, you don’t need to be rolling on the floor with tears in your eyes if his jokes bombed.

A polite chuckle is perfectly fine, and that gives him the hint that he’s not funny (i.e. you’re not attracted to him).

But if your funny bone really is tingling from his witty one-liners, then go ahead and laugh.

Studies show that humor is a huge factor in sexual attraction. As you already know, women like guys who are funny because it’s a sign of intelligence (which is an attractive trait).

But recent research done by Westfield State College, University of Western Ontario, and McMaster University state that "men preferred those who were receptive to their own humor, particularly for sexual relationships.”

This seems like it’s not so much about treating a guy’s ego with kid gloves…

…and more to do with a man’s desired to be appreciated by his partner.

Trust me, I know plenty of guys who have appreciation as one of their “must haves” in a relationship. So, appreciating his sense of humor is a good step in that direction.

Use These Scripts To Trigger A Man’s Infatuation Instinct And See The Dramatic Difference On How He Responds To You

#4: Find Strength in Numbers

According to several studies, you can be more attractive by hanging out with your friends.

For instance, there’s research from Tilburg University in the Netherlands and the University of California that both document what’s known as the “cheerleader effect.”

This basically states that someone’s perception of you changes favorable once you’re in a group.

On the surface, you might think it’s because you’ll appear more sociable and friendly. This makes you attractive without looking like you’re trying too hard.

But there’s another angle to it. You see, the human brain has a habit of categorizing individual elements (like shapes, objects and people) into a general group.

This is mostly a hardwired survival trait to not visually focus too hard on one thing - but rather the whole picture. And this instinct spills over into a person’s social life as well.

So in a practical sense, you can set your social media (and online dating) profile picture to a photo featuring you with a group of friends. Just make sure it’s clear who you are in the picture so you don’t get lost in the sea of faces!

If you’re looking to a meet a guy in a bar or a party, make sure to bring your squad along too. Social proofing is a real phenomenon, so use it to your advantage.

#5: Appeal to His Sensual Side

There’s really no surprise here. Any guy who’s interested in women will obviously want physical intimacy in the relationship.

But you’d be surprised – and even downright concerned – how many women are lacking this department.

A lot of them take for granted the power of using their feminine charm to win a guy over.

And no, I’m not telling you to start acting out a scene from an adult film to turn a guy on.

What I am saying is that you should be more aware of a guy’s hot buttons, and learn how to push them.

For instance, women underestimate the power of physical touch.

Most men go their whole lives not knowing the pure pleasure of a validating pat on the back, a hug, or other forms of affection.

Women, on the other hand, tend to experience this on a daily basis.

So using body language is an excellent way to ignite his senses – whether it’s brushing against his arm or leg against yours “accidentally”…

…or putting your hand on his arm for a few precious seconds.

Remember, men love being teased, and the delicious pleasure of the “slow burn.”

And of course, men also appreciate variety when it comes to the main event in bed. Make an effort and take the initiative to spice things up every now and then.

Better yet, you could even go as far as asking him what he wants, then apply it in bed after (with your consent, of course). That would make for an interesting topic, don't you think?

One more thing - there’s another trait I didn’t mention earlier, but it’s incredibly attractive to men as well.

A study done at Rutgers University found a unique psychological trait in guys that they’ve dubbed as an “emotional tripwire.”

Now, once you understand how this works – and how to use it (which is super easy by the way)…

…your guy will instantly enter a state of intense infatuation.

It’s like a splinter in his mind, and he’ll be incapable of thinking of any other women in a romantic way – except YOU.

There’s a free video presentation that explains this in SHOCKING detail, so make sure you’re sitting down before watching it:

Click Here: How To Use Infatuation Scripts To Make Him Sure That You’re The One For Him

5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With